This Wasn't in the Brochure
The survival guide for the late-diagnosed generation raising the next.
A cartographer's guide to the shared neurobiology of your home—ADHD, Autism, PDA, and ODD—even when you and your co-parent don't agree.
"We are the sailors who set out for a coastal sail and found ourselves in the ice-choked waters of an Antarctic passage. We packed for a picnic—only to discover the conditions required ice axes and oxygen tanks. If you have stood in your kitchen amidst the wreckage of a morning routine, muscles trembling from holding a child through a meltdown, and thought This wasn't in the brochure—you are in the right place."
— Chapter 1: Cartographers of Uncharted Waters
The "Double Discovery"
It usually starts with your child. But then, in the quiet of the psychologist's waiting room, the mirror turns toward you.
"I was filling out the ADHD checklist for my daughter—'loses things,' 'interrupts,' 'brain like a Ferrari'—and I froze. I realized she's not the only one. I've been running on this same high-octane, low-brakes engine my whole life without a manual."
"My ex says I'm 'projecting' my sensory issues onto our son. But when he covers his ears at the grocery store, I don't just see it—I feel it in my own teeth. How do I co-parent when our nervous systems are screaming different languages?"
"I thought I was just a 'messy' parent. I didn't know my inability to organize the school paperwork was executive dysfunction, not a character flaw. I need tools for *me*, not just for him."
"The parenting books say 'be consistent.' But my ADHD brain craves novelty and my Autistic co-parent craves order. We are clashing operating systems trying to run the same ship."
Not a Parenting Book.
A Map for Your Brain.
Standard parenting advice assumes a neurotypical navigator. We chart the territory for brains like yours—and your child's.
The Genetic Mirror
ADHD and Autism are highly heritable (70-90%). Stop fighting your own nature. Learn to navigate your child's map by understanding your own "operating system" first.
Physiological Co-Regulation
Move beyond "behaviour management." Learn to anchor the ship during a meltdown using nervous-system science, not charts or punishments.
External Scaffolding
If your executive function is "glitchy," stop relying on willpower. Build external systems ("Launch Pads," Visual Timers) that carry the mental load for you.
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Navigator's Compass
Your quick reference guide. The "Double Discovery," the Voice Contract, and all 11 Quick Maps.
Cartographers of Uncharted Waters
The Genetic Mirror. Why understanding your own neurodivergence is foundational to co-parenting.
Understanding the Waters
ADHD, Autism, PDA, and ODD explained. The Ferrari brain, the Linux OS, and the soldier behind enemy lines.
Maps You Can Use Tonight
Theory won't help at 7 AM when the morning is falling apart. Download printable survival cards, visual routines, and scripts for the hard moments.
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