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Appendix H

Important Notices

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This book offers general information and lived-experience tools; it is not a substitute for individualized medical, mental health, or educational advice. Always consult qualified professionals about diagnosis, treatment, medication, or supplements for your child or family.

Legal and Custody Disclaimer

School and custody order rules vary by jurisdiction, district, and court order. Nothing in this book is legal advice. When questions involve records access, decision authority, or safety planning, consult your custody order and a qualified attorney or local advocacy organization.

Safety and Crisis Disclaimer

If a child or adult is at immediate risk of harm to self or others, follow local emergency guidance and seek professional help right away. Safety comes first, even when the family system is under strain.

Crisis Resources (US):

  • Emergency: 911
  • 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988
  • Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
  • SAMHSA National Helpline: 1-800-662-4357
  • Trevor Project (LGBTQ+ Youth): 1-866-488-7386

Trauma-Informed Use Disclaimer

Many families have histories of trauma, conflict, or unsafe relationships. Use this book at your own pace and skip anything that feels activating or unsafe. If you are navigating trauma, consider working alongside a licensed therapist or counselor for added support.

A Note on Pronouns: Why "She"?

Throughout this book, you will notice we predominantly use "she" and "her" when describing neurodivergent children. This is intentional.

Girls and women with ADHD, Autism, PDA, and ODD are systematically underdiagnosed. They often mask their symptoms, internalize their struggles, and are dismissed as "shy," "sensitive," or "just anxious." By the time they are diagnosed—if they are diagnosed at all—they have often spent years internalizing shame.

By centering female examples, we aim to help you recognize neurodivergent traits in your daughter. That said, the strategies work for all children, regardless of gender. When we say "she," read it as "your child." When we say "her meltdown," picture your child's meltdown.

You will also see us use "they/them" pronouns when discussing children in general. This reflects both grammatical convention and our belief that many neurodivergent children are non-binary or gender-expansive. You are welcome here, too.

For the complete evidence base and citations, see Appendix E.

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