Works Cited

A comprehensive log of the research, literature, and resources referenced throughout this book.

Chapter 00: Navigator's Compass: Quick Reference Guide

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Chapter 1: Cartographers of Uncharted Waters: An Invitation to the Voyage

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Chapter 2: Understanding the Waters: ADHD, Autism, PDA, and ODD Explained

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Chapter 3: Two Captains, One Ship: Building Your Co-Parenting Team

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Chapter 4: The Morning Passage: Routines and Rituals for a Smooth Start

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• Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) and Autism: A Guide For Allies, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://reframingautism.org.au/pathological-demand-avoidance-pda-and-autism-guide-for-allies/
• The Parent-Child Relationship and Post-Treatment Child Outcomes across Two Treatments for Oppositional Defiant Disorder - NIH, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6685776/
• Bedtime routines and sleep for children who have additional needs - A Better Start Southend, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://abetterstartsouthend.co.uk/family_resources/bedtime-routines-and-sleep-for-children-with-send/
• Development of the "Extreme Demand Avoidance Questionnaire" (EDA-Q): preliminary observations on a trait measure for Pathological Demand Avoidance - Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, accessed on December 21, 2025, https://doi.org/10.1111/jcpp.12149

Chapter 5: Stormy Seas: Meltdowns, Tantrums, and Emotional Dysregulation

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• ADHD Emotional Dysregulation: Managing Intense Emotions - ADDA, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://add.org/emotional-dysregulation-adhd/
• ADHD and Criminal Justice, Part One: The Punishment Mindset and School Discipline, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://chadd.org/attention-article/adhd-and-criminal-justice-part-one-the-punishment-mindset-and-school-discipline/
• Amygdala Hijack: When Emotion Takes Over - Healthline, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://www.healthline.com/health/stress/amygdala-hijack
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• Autism Meltdown vs Tantrum: 5 Key Differences - ABA Centers of Florida, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://abacentersfl.com/blog/autism-meltdown-vs-tantrum/
• Autism Meltdown vs Tantrum—Understand the Differences - Abacus Therapies, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://abacustherapies.com/autism-meltdown-vs-tantrum/
• Autism PDA Explained: The Core Characteristics of Pathological Demand Avoidance, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://neurodivergentinsights.com/autism-pda-explained/
• Autism and ADHD: Insights for Parents & Teachers in Birmingham - AG & Co Health, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://www.agcohealth.co.uk/understanding-autism-and-adhd-insights-for-parents-and-teachers-in-birmingham
• Autism, Masking and Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) - Steph's Two Girls, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://www.stephstwogirls.co.uk/2021/02/autism-masking-and-pathological-demand.html
• Child Development Team - East Sussex Healthcare NHS Trust, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://www.esht.nhs.uk/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/Demand-Avoidance-Vs-Pathological-Demand-Avoidance-PDA.pdf
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• Coregulation: A Multilevel Approach via Biology and Behavior - PMC - PubMed Central, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10453544/
• Creating a “Calm Down Corner” for Your Child - Northshore Pediatric Therapy, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://www.northshorepediatric.com/blog/creating-a-calm-down-corner-for-your-child
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• Effective Consequences for ADHD Kids - Empowering Parents, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/effective-consequences-for-adhd-kids/
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• Enhanced Cortisol Response to Stress in Children in Autism - PMC - NIH, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3245359/
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• Helpful Strategies for Communicating in a High-Conflict Co-parent Relationship, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://www.lerchearly.com/news/raising-kids-not-conflict-helpful-strategies-for-communicating-in-a-high-conflict-co-parent-relationship/
• How The Amygdala Hijack Can Be Dangerous For Parents - NeuroGym Blog, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://blog.myneurogym.com/how-the-amygdala-hijack-can-be-dangerous-for-parents/
• How low-demand language helps children with PDA - Think Psychologists, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://www.thinkpsychologists.com.au/blog/low-demand-language-pda-kids/
• How to use restorative justice to support autistic children, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/professional-practice/how-to-use-restorative-justice-to-support-autistic
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• Lightning: An Essay in Flashes - Amy Parker - Burrow Press, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://burrowpress.com/lightning-amy-parker/
• Looking for advice on how to best support a fight response PDAer. : r/PDAAutism - Reddit, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://www.reddit.com/r/PDAAutism/comments/17md238/looking_for_advice_on_how_to_best_support_a_fight/
• Managing Autism Meltdowns, Tantrums and Aggression, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/autism-meltdowns/
• Managing an autistic meltdown - Attwood & Garnett Events, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://www.attwoodandgarnettevents.com/blogs/news/managing-an-autistic-meltdown
• Masking in Autism: When Your Child Seems 'Fine' at School But Melts Down at Home, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://www.learningdna.org.uk/blog/masking-in-autism-when-your-child-seems-fine-at-school-but-melts-down-at-home
• Meltdowns & Calming Techniques in Autism, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://autism.org/meltdowns-calming-techniques-in-autism/
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• Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) in Kids - Child Mind Institute, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://childmind.org/article/pathological-demand-avoidance-in-kids/
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• Sensory Diet - Kid Sense Child Development, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://childdevelopment.com.au/areas-of-concern/sensory-processing/sensory-diet/
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• TANTRUM or MELTDOWN? Knowing the difference in autistic and PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) kids - YouTube, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NvkBnLmzg-g
• Teaching Children to 'Tap Out' During Rough Play - Wise Compass, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://wisecompass.com/knowledge-base/how-can-we-practise-tap-out-so-stopping-feels-strong-not-weak/
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• Time-Ins vs Time-Outs: Why Connection Works Better Than Isolation for Kids, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://hes-extraordinary.com/time-in-vs-time-out
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Chapter 6: Bridging Two Worlds: Transitions Between Homes

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• 8 Practical Tips for Co-Parenting a PDA Child: A Two-Home Approach - The Kidd Clinic, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://www.kiddclinic.com.au/blog/co-parenting-a-pdaer
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• ADHD and School Readiness: Natural Strategies to Restore Focus and Calm, accessed on December 19, 2025, https://barefootmedicine.co.uk/adhd-and-school-readiness-natural-strategies-to-restore-focus-and-calm/
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Chapter 7: School and Beyond: Charting a Course in the Outside World

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Chapter 8: The Wider Village: Family, Friends, and Finding Support

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Chapter 9: The Caring Compass: Self-Care for Co-Parents

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Chapter 10: New Horizons: Adapting as Your Child Grows

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Chapter 11: The Voyage Continues: A Neurodivergent Co-Parent's Manifesto

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Appendix A: A Note on Neurodivergent Authorship and Writing with AI

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Appendix B: Glossary

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Appendix C: Resources

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Appendix D: Printable Tools

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Appendix E: Evidence Base

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Appendix F: Works Cited

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Appendix G: Transition Checklists

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General References

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Part 1: Preparing for the Journey (Chapters 1-3)

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