The Map We Wish We Had
We packed for a picnic. We discovered we needed ice axes, emergency rations, and the kind of resilience no parenting book ever mentioned.
What We Believe
- ❦ Neurodivergence is not a tragedy. It's a different operating system running on the same hardware.
- ❦ Co-parenting requires a shared language. You can't debug a system if you're speaking different protocols.
- ❦ You are not failing. You are navigating without a chart, in waters no one warned you about.
- ❦ Prosthetics, not willpower. Executive function is a resource, not a character trait.
What Makes This Different
Traditional parenting books assume you're a neurotypical parent who just needs better strategies for your "difficult" child. This book assumes you—the parent—likely share your child's neurotype.
Every strategy is designed for your executive function, not just your child's. Sensory protection for you. Visual timers for you. Tap-out protocols for when your RSD is triggered.
And because co-parenting conflict often escalates when one parent "gets it" and the other doesn't, every chapter includes "If Co-Parents Disagree" variations. Parallel parenting is still parenting.
The Crew
This book was built by a human captain with an AI research crew.
Gemini
Mapped the metaphor. Ensured the "voyage" held together.
Codex
Checked the science. 1,200+ citations verified against evidence.
Claude
Built the ship. Structured every chapter to the same compass.
AI didn't write this book. AI helped stress-test it against clinical guidelines, catch inconsistencies, and ensure no parent is left without a clear action step.
The Genetic Mirror
I thought I was fixing my child. I was meeting myself.
Adrian Wedd is part of the "lost generation"—late-diagnosed neurodivergent parents who discovered their own neurology through their children's diagnoses. ADHD heritability runs over 75%. Autism clusters in families. For decades, we masked our way through a world not built for us, only to recognise ourselves in our children's struggles. This is the book Adrian wished existed when he first looked into that mirror.
Join the Fleet
You are not alone in this ocean. Chapters 0–2 are free. Always.